20. Your boyfriend doesn’t need to know everything about you.


Many have told me that my life is an open book. As clearly, writing this blog would indicate. And I’ve also been told that I wear my???????????????????????????????????????? heart on my sleeve. These are not terrific qualities for attracting and getting a guy – or keeping him. There was an expression I heard once, and I apologize in advance for the language – but it goes like this: “Only show a man half your ass.” This is an incredibly wise saying. Why? Because honestly, men really don’t want or need to know everything, and I mean everything, about you. You should always have some things you keep to yourself. Not only does this help you maintain your independence, it also makes your guy wonder from time to time what you’re up to. Or what you’ve been up to. Nothing wrong with that. This concept, unfortunately, is even harder for most of us to do today because of Facebook, Twitter and what I call the social networking palooza. Everyone seems to be sharing way too much. But that doesn’t mean you have to, too.

Word to the wise: Let him spill his secrets. When you share less about yourself, the more he’ll share with you. And that’s a secret all wise women know. Here’s some more interesting thoughts on this mysterious subject: http://ezinearticles.com/?Mystery-Solved—How-to-Be-Mysterious-and-Keep-Him-Wanting-More&id=3031693

How do you feel about keeping a bit of mystery in your relationship? Note: If I’m lucky enough to get a book deal, your comments may be published anonymously, “Wise Before 25, 50 Things Young Women Should Know.”


About Eva Finn

Eva Finn is an award-winning marketing copywriter, advertising instructor and life expert. She started the blog, Wise Before 25 so young women can avoid making the same mistakes she did. This blog will become a book of the same title, which will include contributions from readers. She was also published in a book about the subject of hair– the good, bad and the ugly – called, fittingly enough, Hair Pieces, by the Cary Tennis Workshop. As a copywriter for more than 20 years, she has written ads, brochures, direct mail, radio and television for clients that included In-N-Out Burger, Bank of America, Toyota and Ingram Micro. Eva has a bachelor’s degree in English and a master’s degree in education. She has taught advertising classes at The Art Institute of California-Orange County and California State University, Fullerton. And she has had plenty of hard knocks from the school of life.

6 responses »

  1. While browsing for dating tips to discuss for my school’s new women’s mentoring program, I ran across your blog. I must say, I am hooked! I hope that you receive a booking deal soon because I want to get my hands on this book! I will be turning 24 next week ( march 31rst). Thus, I am soaking up as much advise my brain can receive so I can become wise before 25+.
    I feel that it’s a safe idea and rather attractive to keep a bit of mystery in the relationship. It is safe to protect yourself from giving your boyfriend any vital information about yourself that may be exploited after a break up. I find it rather pleasing and attractive to find out something new later down the road about your significant other. It helps to keep the relationship interesting. Additionally, I feel that it all depends on what appropriate information should be withheld and what type of approach is taking place.
    I wonder what about long-term boyfriends? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. When my boyfriend asks me a question about one of my past times, I do not hesitate to answer. I guess my mother drilled me so many times about being honest (not saying that being mysterious is being dishonest).

    • Thanks so much for your feedback. It’s nice to know that someone going through the trials and tribulations of being in their 20s appreciates thoughts from someone who has lived them (and sometimes, although I’m much older, still do!). And I think mystery is a good quality to possess when it comes to all relationships. I have a tendency to over share – it’s always better, if you can, to find out about new people who come into your life before telling them your life story. Your mother taught you well 🙂

  2. Soooo true! Still I find myself blurting out WAY TMI, and as soon as it leaves my mouth, I’m like, derp, wth did I just say that?!!

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