5. Facebook is your enemy.


Look at me. My life sucks. All of my “friends” are always going somewhere exciting, have boyfriends who are willing to take lots of pictures with them and throw really fun parties they don’t invite me to. Reading these posts can incite me to throw a party of my own – a pity party. But then I remember that I went to Italy last year, fulfilling a lifelong dream, and hey, I’m working on writing this blog and getting a book published. And then, well, things start to look up a bit. Maybe if I posted some of that on Facebook, I’d feel better. Someone might even hit the “like” button or make a comment. Wow, I could start feeling really good about myself again. And then whoever reads my posts might feel just like I do when I read theirs. Hmmmm…

Word to the wise: Have a life outside of Facebook. And know that just because people post that they’re having the most wonderful time in the world, doesn’t necessarily mean that they are. Or if it makes you feel better, they are.

What do you think? Note: Your comments may be published anonymously in the upcoming book, “Wise Before 25, 50 Things Young Women Need to Know.”


About Eva Finn

Eva Finn is an award-winning marketing copywriter, advertising instructor and life expert. She started the blog, Wise Before 25 so young women can avoid making the same mistakes she did. This blog will become a book of the same title, which will include contributions from readers. She was also published in a book about the subject of hair– the good, bad and the ugly – called, fittingly enough, Hair Pieces, by the Cary Tennis Workshop. As a copywriter for more than 20 years, she has written ads, brochures, direct mail, radio and television for clients that included In-N-Out Burger, Bank of America, Toyota and Ingram Micro. Eva has a bachelor’s degree in English and a master’s degree in education. She has taught advertising classes at The Art Institute of California-Orange County and California State University, Fullerton. And she has had plenty of hard knocks from the school of life.

11 responses »

  1. A wise woman once told me “never compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.” Now tell us about this hot Latin lover.

    • Melissa my darling, I don’t think anyone wants to see my insides 🙂 And as far as the HLL goes, like all great secrets, he prefers to be kept one. Oops, should’ve thought of that before I posted. Oh well…Miss you! And thanks so much for commenting 🙂

  2. I almost never contact the friends that I actually see and talk to on a regular basis on Facebook. For that matter, few of my 173 “friends” on facebook are more than acquaintances. Remember who your real friends are!

    • I couldn’t agree with you more – at this time, more than ever -I am grateful and thankful for my true friends. And even some of my acquaintances (is there a wink symbol somewhere on this thing?). Happy Thanksgiving and best wishes to you and Cary 🙂

  3. Love the “FB, friend or foe” message here. Like many things in life – maybe even most– it’ all in the way you look at it. I have found that it can also be my friend or foe in that it tends to force transparency and honesty. For instance when a friend “outs” you by posting pics of you at a party that not everyone was invited to. Or an event that you didn’t mention you were attending. It does have a way of giving up your secrets. So you may as well be open and honest about what you’re doing and where you’re going. And on the flip side, give your friends the benefit of the doubt when you catch them out and about when they said they were busy. It works both ways. : )

    • Hey Simone, that’s some pretty good insight. It’s hard to remember though, when you’re looking at those pics. Those of us who sign up for FB have definitely compromised our privacy and I guess that’s just the price we have to pay for all those “likes.” I will try to remember benefit of the doubt – one should always keep that in mind not just on FB, but in life. Thanks 🙂

  4. Superbly written Eva!!
    I recently had a facebook crisis myself, when around a dozen people told me in last 15 days that its high time to change my display pic (just cuz its old-updated in March’12)….and I still haven’t changed it…cuz I really don’t feel the need..

    All the best for your book!

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