Even though we’re always being told the exact opposite. Not to mention, I’ve had a few very close friends die young. So you could also argue against me on that score if you’ve lost someone way before they were supposed to go. But let me explain why life, generally is long. And just so I don’t hog all the credit, it was my always late, cheap ex-boyfriend who laid that philosophy on me and it really resonated then and continues to do so now. We were having one of our many “discussions” about how the fact that he was always two hours late annoyed me, was disrespectful, etc. (he was probably out on another date before he came over, but I digress). I remember he paused, looked at me and said, “Eva, life is long.” Basically he was saying it was too long to deal with my s—t. At that moment, I realized it was also too long to deal with his. I knew that unless a truck hit either of us the next day, if I didn’t end it, we could have gone on like that for years. Because he was getting exactly what he wanted: me at his convenience; and I was nowhere near to getting what I wanted: commitment. This is just one of many examples where if you look at the road ahead as short, you may be short-sighting yourself. You have to think long-term. And I know that’s really hard to do when you’re in your 20s. Hell, it’s hard to do at any age.
Word to the wise: Life is only short when it’s good. My grandfather lived to the ripe old age of 94, may God bless him. You might get to be that old, too. Imagine your life one year from now. Five years from now. Ten years from now. How about 50? Make sure you’re living the life you want to.
Can you think of any situations that are making your life longer? Please share. Note: If I’m lucky enough to get a book deal, your comments may be published anonymously in the upcoming book, “Wise Before 25, 50 Things Young Women Need to Know.”
Hey Girlie. I guess its true that life is short when you’re living it up! I don’t think I’m doing this, as sometimes I wonder where did the time go….Your ex will realize how life can really be long now that he is single and lonely.
P.s– you can always self-publish!
Hey you, thanks for that – but that ex was a LOONNNNNGGGGG time ago. I’m sure I’m way forgotten by now. But to get over the breakup, I did console myself by thinking that he will suffer because he is who is – and will probably be single and lonely for life. As far as self-publishing goes, yes, I suppose, but boy, I’d really like to get someone to publish me 🙂 Thanks for commenting and also appreciate your blogs with prayers to Boston and Texas – what a day today in Boston, btw!
Yeh…what a week!
I love that: Life is only short when it’s good. So true. I think the trick might be to live IN the moment, but not FOR it. Planning too much for the future can cause you to miss the present. But living only in the present can leave you without much of a future. And either scenario can leave you pretty empty.
Now I love what you just said – live in the moment, not for it. One of these days, I’ll get it right. Thanks for sharing 🙂